How NLP Helped Me Advocate for Myself — and Why I’m Ready to Help Others Do the Same

There’s a quote I’ve always loved:
“It’s hard to see the picture when you’re standing in the frame.”
I never truly understood how accurate that was until life handed me circumstances that forced me to step back, look inward, and change the way I showed up for myself.

I became an NLP Practitioner in 2021 — long before I knew I would be navigating a chronic illness, long before the medical gaslighting, and long before I understood how deeply mindset can influence endurance. Back then, NLP was a tool I used mainly in business coaching and the occasional one-on-one session. Helpful, powerful, but still sitting quietly in the background of my life.

What I didn’t know at the time was that learning NLP was going to be the thing that saved me when the hardest chapter of my life arrived.

NLP Didn’t Arrive Because of My Diagnosis — But It Changed Everything After It

My illness didn’t show up and suddenly inspire me to learn mindset tools.
Instead, I already had those tools — and when everything fell apart, I realized just how essential they were.

If this diagnosis, this medical journey, this mountain of being dismissed, unheard, or misdiagnosed had happened before my NLP training… I honestly don’t know where I’d be. My story would’ve looked very different. I wouldn’t have had the courage to advocate for myself. I wouldn’t have had the mental structure to challenge the internal stories that mirrored what I was being told from the outside. I wouldn’t have coped.

NLP didn’t eliminate the pain.
But it changed the way I thought about the pain.
It changed the way I responded to what was happening around me.
And most importantly, it changed the way I treated myself through it.

Why Traditional Counselling Wasn’t Enough

For years, counselling helped me through grief, overwhelm, and the emotional weight of life. And I’m grateful for it — it absolutely has its place. But my experience was that it felt supportive only while I was actively attending sessions. As soon as I stopped going, the helplessness and old thought patterns returned.

It wasn’t that counselling failed me.
It was that I needed something that built internal resilience — not reliance.

What I needed was a way to change what was happening inside my mind, not just process what was happening outside of it.

NLP became that turning point.

How NLP Strengthened My Mindset When Life Got Hard

When the pain returned after surgery and my concerns were dismissed…
When I had to fight for referrals, explanations, and answers…
When I was told “it’s in your head” more times than any person should endure…

NLP gave me skills I didn’t know I would desperately need:

To advocate for myself without folding under pressure

To interrupt spirals of fear or defeat

To reframe my internal dialogue in moments of uncertainty

To recognise when old stories were creeping in and consciously rewrite them

To stay grounded when life felt chaotic or unfair

NLP helped me step out of the frame — to see the bigger picture, the choices available to me, and the power I still had, even when everything felt out of control.

It gave me clarity when emotions blurred the edges.
It helped me see possibilities when fear made everything look impossible.
It helped me cope — not temporarily, but sustainably.

Why I’m Ready to Step Into My Own Power as a Practitioner

For years I quietly took NLP clients by word of mouth, never truly promoting myself or stepping into the role fully. Part of that was self-doubt. Part of it was the belief that coaches or practitioners needed perfect lives to be credible.

But here’s what I now know:

The people who guide others well
Are not the people with flawless lives.
They are the ones in the arena too.

They’re the ones who understand what it feels like to fall apart.
They’re the ones doing their own inner work daily.
They’re the ones who care enough to grow alongside the people they support.

I no longer believe a coach needs a spotless story.
I believe they need a human one.

And living through this experience — navigating pain, uncertainty, resilience, and the demand to advocate fiercely for myself — has shown me that I have something valuable to offer.

I can be the person who stands beside you:
Your hypegirl.
Your accountability partner.
Your guide who won’t sugar-coat reality, but won’t let you drown in it either.
Your support who understands what it means to rebuild yourself from the inside out.

Not because my life is perfect — but because I’m actively doing the work too.

I’m Ready to Help Others Change Their Mindset the Way NLP Changed Mine

NLP didn’t just help me survive my chronic illness journey.
It helped me stay myself through it.
It helped me choose empowerment over collapse.
It helped me reclaim my voice, my strength, and my direction.

And now, I’m ready to offer that same transformation to others — gently, authentically, powerfully.

If you’re navigating a challenge, a transition, burnout, or simply feeling stuck in the frame of your own life… I’m here.
Not to fix you.
Not to rescue you.
But to help you see your own picture clearly — and step into your own power just as I am stepping into mine.